Welcome to our journey through foster parenting and adopting. I am so glad you have visited my blog.

My prayer is that through my experiences on this journey, I can be of help to someone else. I want Jesus Christ to be glorified through this blog because it is only through him that I am able to make this journey.

Here we go, let's start this journey together.

With All My Heart
Paula

Sunday, September 26, 2010

WHAT ARE WE DOING

Well, I know it has been a while since I posted last so here is a quick update on our family.

We now have a teenage driver in our house.  Seth took drivers education in school this trimester and passed his drivers test so we now officially have license.  He is still not ready to drive alone but he does have his license.

Patton is playing football and fall baseball.  There football team is doing very good they are 4-1 right now.  The fall baseball league he is playing on is also doing good the only problem is that we play about an hour and a half from our house and it is every Saturday.

Landon is doing great in first grade and he is also playing football but there record is not so good.

Lucy Mae is doing very good with visits with her dad.  She spends every weekend with him and at least once per week with him.  Her mom on the other hand is a completely different story.  Lucy's  Mom has absolutely no respect for anyone and will not do any thing you ask of her when it comes to decisions about Lucy.  She tells her things that are not true and in her own way tells Lucy she does not have to listen to us.  We are having another ISP meeting the first week of October and I think Lucy will be moving back to her Dad then and Mom will go back to supervised visits and that is the way it should be.  Lucy is having tubes put in her ears and adenoids removed on Tuesday.

Little J is doing great.  He NEVER stops talking but he is very entertaining.  He went to see his Cardiologist last week and he is still very pleased with his condition.  I want to get him potty trained so bad but he is not interested at all.  I think he may be 6 before he is potty trained lol.

Chyne and I are doing fine we are just very busy dealing with all the things that our kids have us doing but I love it and wouldn't have it any other way.

Monday, September 13, 2010

OVERNIGHT

Lucy had her first overnight visit this past weekend with her Dad.  I have to say that things seemed to go better than what I expected.

Dad is still struggling with taking control and being the parent.  Lucy loves control and can easily get it with Dad.  He is working on this and is very open to me helping him and giving him advice.  He really does need to realize that this is like a second chance to get it right and if he doesn't let Lucy know that things are changing around his house it will go back to the way it was.  He commented several times that he could tell a big difference in Lucy.  I think that is great but she will go back to her old ways if he lets her.

Lucy did fine with coming back to us and is continuously telling me and everyone else in the house she loves us.  I am not sure what that is all about.  She has pretty much always told me she loved me at bed time but this is constant now.   I do think she likes it her with us and she will miss us when she leaves.

We should have a hearing for her by the end of the month and then she will return home to Dad.

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

WE HAVE A DATE

After 2 1/2 years of waiting we finally have a court date. 

OUR ADOPTION DAY IS 10-27-2010

We are so excited to think in just a little over a month Little J will officially be ours forever.


                                                  

Monday, September 6, 2010

SOMETHING STRANGE

Lucy Mae is doing a lot better these days. ( of course, she would be since it is about time for her to go home lol)  Anyway on the other hand her Mother is something else.

The whole time Lucy has been with us she has tried to find something that I am doing wrong, finger nails too long, not answering phone, not keeping her clean you name she has said it.  Well, the icing on the cake was when she was accusing me of not taking care of her when she had a rash on her bottom that you could not even see unless she pulled her buttocks apart and looked.  First of all, Lucy bathes herself and does exceptional with that, secondly I do not inspect her private areas and will not unless she complains which she did not thirdly, Lucy had been sick and was on antibiotics that caused her to have diarrehea.  Anyway BM called me and tried to tell me how to take care of her.  This sent me in to orbit.  I was so angry that she would call to tell me how to take care of her when she is with me because she cannot take care of her.  I told her that she could call anytime to speak with Lucy but not to ever call and try to tell me how to care for her again.  She went on to tell me that the reason she does that is that she was told that Lucy was being abused in foster care.  She said that Lucy's Paternal Grandmother was saying that.  That is a lie because I speak with her regularly and they are thankful Lucy is with us and not the Mom.

Yesterday at the visit something really strange happened.  Lucy visited with Dad and was fine had a great time and cried when we left of course but then it was Mom's turn.  I received a call about 15 mins before pickup time asking me to come and get Lucy early that she was "ready to go home."  They said the whole visit with Mom she kept asking for me and saying she wanted to go home.  I am not really sure why this happened the supervisor said she didn't feel well which is not a really good excuse because why would she not want her Mom to hold her and take care of her if she was sick.  I picked her up,  and she does have a little cough but other than that she was fine.  She came home, played outside until dark ate supper and then went to bed.  I think that Lucy can sense that something is not right with her Mom.  Based on the therapist accessment and test scores for parenting views and several other things she says that the Mom is a lot worse that what she originally thought.  Her Mom is very needy and reversed the parent child role.  She wants Lucy to be there to take care of her not her take care of Lucy.

I feel very sad for Lucy that her Mom is like this but her Dad will be good with her.  The therapist now says that she needs to be moved from her quickly though becasue she is beginning to feel as though this is her home and that she could have a hard time leaving us if she is here much longer. 

The ISP is Wednesday, I will have an update for you then.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

ANOTHER STEP CLOSER

We met with our attorney today and let me just say we love him.  He is so kind and down to earth.  He simply just sat and talked to us for about 45 minutes today about just life in general and his true views on our system.  He does represent DHR for their cases but switches gears when he represents a family for adoption.  He does share the same beliefs that we have as far as Christianity, the immoral lifestyle that children are being raised in, etc.  He told us that they just had some different statistics come out and that 40% of all babies being brought into this world are illegitimate.  In other words these babies are being brought into this world unplanned, unwanted, and in alot of cases do not even know who their father is.  I would dare say that over half of the children our children come in contact with each day at school are either from a broken home or are in foster care themselves.  This is a very sad situation to me.

He also shares the same opinion that blood relatives are not always what is best for a child because in most cases that situation will not be any better than what they came from but our liberal politicians are who makes the DHR rules and guidelines.  This will really make you stop and research the politicians before you vote.

Okay, enough preaching.  Here is the happy part.  Little J is another step closer to being ours forever.  We signed all the necessary papers today and are now just waiting on a court date.  Our attorney said that we will be issued a temporary custody order until the adoption is final.  I cannot wait to introduce him to you officially.  Shouldn't be much longer now.