Since we have finalized our adoption of Jacob I have been thinking a lot about when the right time is to begin telling Jacob about his birth mom. Jacob sees her about two to threes times per year and she calls or text usually about twice her month. When she calls I always let him talk to her and he just knows that she is T. I know that he is only almost three, but when do I start talking about her to him as his first Mommy, or birth Mom?
Do I start showing him pictures of her and telling him that he grew in her belly and in our hearts?
Do I tell him she loved him and wanted what was best for him (which in a way she did but she still continued her drug use)?
Or, Do I simply just put a picture of her in his room and call her by name and when he is old enough to ask why he has that picture and who she really is then tell him?
Do I just do nothing until he is older?
I just want to do this in a way that is best for everyone. I do not ever want Jacob to feel like I have kept anything from him. I want our line of communication to always be open about his adoption but I don't know where to start.
Any advise that anyone could give me would be greatly appreciated.